Proverbs 19:5 A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who speaks lies will not escape.

James 1:7-8 For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways. 

The world we live in is filled with all kinds of people – good and bad, domineering and passive, humble and proud, kind and selfish, compassionate and unmerciful as well as honest and unfaithful. With so much deception, it’s very important to always ask God to impart His wisdom to you when meeting people. Exercise godly discernment, so you can be a good judge of character. Some people are good liars and master manipulators. If you are not careful, you can easily get entangled in their web of lies and deceit.

I like watching crime shows which are reenactments of true events that have occurred. It amazes me that the perpetrators involved in those crimes are convinced they will never get caught or face justice for their actions. They are deceived by their own corrupt way of thinking. Little do they know, it’s always that one key piece of incriminating evidence which ties them to the crime they have committed.

Ladies, my prayer is that you will use extra caution when meeting someone. Pray fervently and ask God to give you His wisdom in revealing the true character of that person. Look at the evidence and pay close attention to the details. If he’s a genuine godly man, he will be a man filled with the Holy Spirit of God, he will be a man of upright conduct holding fast to integrity, humility, truthfulness, faithfulness and honor to the Lord his God and exhibiting these characteristics to those around him. On the other hand, if he is manipulative, you will see traces of ungodliness at work in his life: unfaithfulness, selfishness, dishonesty, lies, deception, pride, arrogance, the lusts of the flesh, and compromising standards. The Bible affirms:

Luke 6:45 A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart brings forth evil. For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks. 

Matthew 7:16a You will know them by their fruits. 

Mark 4:22 For there is nothing hidden which will not be revealed, nor has anything been kept secret but that it should come to light. 

God sees and hears everything. If you seek Him diligently and ask Him for His wisdom, He will give it to you.

James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.

Meeting someone for the first time can be very exciting. In that moment, the butterflies in your stomach are swirling aimlessly around while your heart skips a beat.

Ladies, I can’t stress how important it is to allow God’s Holy Spirit to lead and direct you verses relying on your emotions. Following  your emotions can lead to you falling in love with and marrying the wrong man, or worse case scenario – someone else’s husband. I’ve shared this before and it’s worth reiterating again: Any man who is married, separated from his wife, yet still married who is seeking or desires to have a friendship with you or any woman outside his marriage has the wrong motives. He’s a liar and deceiver and cannot be trusted. I keep bringing this up, because I’ve witnessed and also heard stories of women falling into this satanic trap. This behavior is not just evident in the world, but it has also infiltrated our churches. And now is the time for the Body of Christ to stop sleeping on the side lines and wake up, rise up, and begin protecting God’s institution of marriage.

1 Peter 4:17 For the time has come for judgment to begin at the house of God; and if it begins with us first, what will be the end of those who do not obey the gospel of God?

Ladies, please do not sell yourself short or lower your standards for temporary pleasures. Sin is fun for the moment, but then it brings forth painful consequences.

Galatians 6:7 Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. 

Proverbs 14:12 There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.

A man who is willing to cheat on his wife by sharing his emotions and affections through a friendship with another woman is a liar and deceiver. He’s also spiritually weak, disrespectful, and manipulative. If he is compromised in this area, he is also compromised in other areas of his life too. Ladies, do not be deceived. If he treats his wife this way, he will repeat this vicious cycle with you. Do not enter in or maintain a friendship with a married man or men in general. Friendships with the opposite sex become complicated and often times lead to emotional distress. Instead, save your heart and affections for the godly husband of promise whom the Lord has reserved for you. God is a God of order and He will never give you a liar, cheater, deceiver, or someone else’s husband. He is a Good, Good Father and He knows how to give good gifts to His children.

James 1:17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and comes down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shadow of turning. 

1 Corinthians 14:33 For God is not the author of confusion but of peace, as in all the churches of the saints.

Psalm 84:11 For the Lord God is a sun and shield; the Lord will give grace and glory; no good thing will He withhold from those who walk uprightly. 

Ladies, I encourage you all to wait patiently and expectantly on the Lord for your own godly husband. If He has made this promise to you, He will surely bring it to pass in His own way and in His own time.

Ezekiel 24:14a I, the Lord, have spoken it; it shall come to pass, and I will do it; I will not hold back. 

Psalm 27:14 Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart; Wait, I say, on the Lord!

Ecclesiastes 3:11a He has made everything beautiful in its time.