Hi Ladies,

This past weekend, a local church invited me to come out and speak about my book at their Women’s Advance Event. I was nervous, but I knew the Lord provided this open door. I asked a few of my sisters in Christ and one of my pastors to keep me in prayer for this exciting opportunity. The Lord did a great work! He was Faithful in giving me His wisdom, favor, anointing, peace, and boldness to speak to His women about patiently waiting on Him for a godly husband. I will like to share some of the questions which were asked along with my responses:

BFM: What was your motivation for writing this book, Patiently Waiting on the Lord for a Godly Husband?

MLH: To encourage women to wait on the Lord for a godly husband if He has made this promise to them. In the book, I share my personal experiences and the mistakes that I made because I chose to do things my way. My motivation is to encourage women to wait well and to trust God’s timing and not their own.

BFM: Chapter 2 “How do you know if the Lord has promised you a husband?” What was occurring in your life that caused you to ask that question?

MLH: There was a time where I believed I needed to help God out. So I figured that online dating services was the only solution to my ongoing prayer. But before I even signed up, the Lord clearly spoke to my heart and told me that He wasn’t going to bring my husband this way. Nevertheless, I was disobedient and did it anyway thinking I knew what was best for me. I suffered the consequences. I did meet a nice guy; however, there were red flags which I closed my eyes to. Eventually, he decided that he didn’t want to go any further with us getting to know each other, so he broke it off. I was very disappointed, but I also knew this was the Lord’s way of showing me that His answer was “No” from the get go. As a result, I took down my profile and asked God to forgive me. This also caused me to really seek the Lord through prayer to find out, “What is His will for my life?” “Is it His plan for me to remain single or get married?” This was a very difficult prayer for me to pray because I didn’t want to hear Him tell me, “No, you are not going to get married”. But I wanted to be in His perfect will and if that meant remaining single, my prayer then was: “Lord, please take away this desire for marriage and please give me Your grace to still love and serve You anyway”.

BFM: Is this your personal journey as a single woman?

MLH: Yes, it hasn’t been an easy one. In my earlier years of praying for a husband, I would get really upset and angry with God for not bringing someone into my life. I was lonely and desperate for a relationship. That was a very dark season, but in the midst of it, the Lord showed me through His Word that I needed to learn how to love Him with all of my heart, soul, and strength. And realize that no man is going to satisfy the deepest longings of my heart, only Jesus can. I also needed to learn how to be content in my singleness.

BFM: Do you believe that God has a husband for every woman?

MLH: I believe that God has a plan for every woman, now whether or not that includes a husband depends on His purpose for their life. Not everyone wants to get married. I’ve met people who are content to remain single. It depends on His plan. His plan for my life will look different from His plan for your life. It’s all up to Him and what He wants.

BFM: How do we prepare ourselves as we wait on our husbands?

MLH: By allowing the Lord to mold and shape you into the godly wife/woman He wants you to be for your husband. Also working on areas of weakness you may struggle with. Personally, I struggle with forgiveness. I don’t forgive as easy as I should. For the next person, it may be patience, anger, being a good financial steward or any number of things. Work on those areas and allow the Lord to refine you, so you can be a great helpmate to your husband. Reading books on marriage and finding out what is your role as a godly wife and what that entails is another way to prepare. Other simple ways may include learning how to cook and becoming an outdoorsy person. You never know, your future husband may like to camp or hike.

BFM: How do we continue to wait in faith when the years roll around and there is no sign of a husband?

MLH: By keeping the Lord as your primary focus and remembering that He is your Husband first. Isaiah 54:5 says, Your Maker is your Husband. So keep Him first, cultivate your relationship with Him, and do what He is calling you to do. Focus on your ministry. Matthew 6:33 says, “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you”. I believe if you do these things, your wait will become bearable and you will be able to hold on to the promises of God.

BFM: What advice would you give to those who are waiting?

MLH: Don’t compromise or lower your standards. Don’t give into despair. Pay attention to the red flags. When God says “No” to the wrong person, He’s protecting you from something you can’t see. He sees the big picture, we don’t. Accept the godly man that the Lord has for you. Ephiesians 3:20 says “Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us”. Wait on the Lord! No good thing will He withhold from those who walk uprightly. Be content in your season of singlesness and see it as a blessing and not as a curse.

Ladies, I hope that you found my Q&A session encouraging and uplifting. I will like to exhort you to remain anchored in the Lord and in His Word. He is your First Love! No man or anything for that matter will be able to satisfy your need for love, only Jesus can. It’s imperative that you love Him with all of your heart, soul, and strength. If He has promised you a godly husband, He will be faithful to bring you your blessed gift in His timing. There’s nothing you or I can do to speed up that process. It’s all in God’s divine plan and His timing is always perfect. Until then, fall more in love with your Savior and keep Him at the center of your heart. Beware of counterfeits and pay attention to the red flags. God doesn’t want you falling for satan’s counterfeit copy and nor does satan want you having God’s best. It’s highly important that we remain on guard at all times by digging into God’s Word and praying fervently, so we will be able to discern the truth from a lie. Ladies, keep your eyes firmly fixed on Jesus and focus solely on Him. When the time is right, He will bring you His very own special gift of a beautiful godly husband He has picked out specifically for you who will love you as Christ loves the church.

Ecclesiastes 3:11a He has made everything beautiful in its time.

Romans 4:20 He did not waver at the promise of God through unbelief, but was strengthened in faith, giving glory to God.